א נייַע טיפּ פון פרוי: קאַסאַנאָוואַ אין סקערץ

A few years ago, the actress and TV presenter Vera Sotnikova said about herself in an interview: «I am Casanova in a skirt.» In those days, family values ​​prevailed among women, and such a model of behavior seemed very unusual, shocking and masculine. But everything has changed.

Today’s harsh realities often require masculine qualities from women. The boundaries between the sexes are blurred, female and male role models in relationships are approaching. In addition, contacts are becoming more and more superficial, distant, and there is a growing fear of openness, closeness, and vulnerability. Both women and men are afraid of strong feelings that are inevitable in intimate relationships. How are Casanovas different from everyone else?

1. They skillfully seduce

Casanova women are very seductive. Sometimes they use active, «male» techniques, but this is rather rare: more often a woman seduces like a woman — subtly, gracefully and imperceptibly. She will intoxicate you with the aroma of perfume, rustle skirts, cast languid glances.

You will not notice the catch and fall in love. You will take her for a woman who wants to marry, and for a while you will think that she is much more interested in you than she really needs and depends on you. You will look after her, spend money on her. Perhaps you will begin to make plans for a joint future. But over time, she will show her true face.

2. They don’t want to get married. They only want sex

As a rule, women who have already fulfilled their “social minimum program” become Casanovas: they were married, they have children, and now they are free to live the way they want. Such a woman does not need to live life with you and die on the same day. She is only interested in your potency, sensuality, sexual fantasy, the pleasure that you can give her.

“I just want sex right now. Lot. Good and varied,” says Yuliya, 39. “Here, sex is a wonderful contact. But sex comes with relationships, which is a burden to me. How to get only sex, without the accompanying relationship? ”- Inna, 42, echoes her.

Very rarely, young girls who have experienced strong disappointment in romantic love become Casanovas involuntarily. Since this is only a mask, there is hope to turn such a girl into a faithful spouse.

3. Freedom from obligations. If marriage, then civil

After some time in a relationship with a Casanova woman, the man notices that the partner is behaving somehow unusually, breaking the usual stereotypes of female behavior. He does not try to establish a joint life, does not ask for gifts, does not call a man at work five times a day, does not feel much desire to go to theaters and restaurants, avoids meeting his friends and relatives. But he always enthusiastically responds to the offer of sex — all relationships gradually come down to him.

Recently, I have come across many articles about civil marriage, in which a woman is presented rather one-sidedly. The authors expose her as a victim of a man who «uses» her. I strongly disagree with this. Many women consciously choose civil marriage as the most comfortable form of partnership for themselves. Of course, not all of them are Casanovas: the majority in a civil marriage is building a serious relationship.

Most likely, a Casanova woman will avoid any hint of permanence, but if she agrees to marriage, then a maximum of civil marriage: it guarantees safe sex, but frees from other partnership obligations that such a woman perceives as unnecessary.

4. «Swallowed and quit»

Such a model of behavior has ceased to be the privilege of the strong half of humanity. A woman can calmly leave a man who has ceased to satisfy her in sex, or replace him with a more suitable partner — just like men leave women because of sexual dissatisfaction or meeting one that excites them more.

Why are Casanova women good?

The men must have read it and were horrified. However, relationships with such women promise a lot of bonuses, because they:

• they don’t expect anything from you, they don’t make you responsible for your future;
• do not “appropriate” you, tormenting you with jealousy and control;
• do not claim your personal territory: neither psychological nor physical;
• do not create intimacy, which almost always has pain, nothing personal, only sex;
• experienced, sensual, good at sex, they have a developed sexual fantasy, with them you can get enchanting sexual sensations and impressions;
• they will always protect themselves in sex, and therefore you;
• well-groomed, well-groomed, attractive.

So ask yourself the question: “What kind of relationship do I need myself?” And answer it honestly. For those who only want sex, the Casanova woman is the perfect partner. Relations with her are extremely simple: only sex, good and varied. A feast of sensuality, sensations. Maybe this is what you really need?

Just don’t fall in love.