די וועלט פון אַבדזשעקץ און די וועלט פון באַציונגען

The world of a man is an objective world. A man can be well versed in relationships, but initially, in his natural essence, the male task is to create objects, repair objects, understand objects.

The world of a woman is the world of human relations. A woman can perfectly navigate the natural world, but her natural female element is not the objective world, but relationships and inner feelings. A woman lives with her feelings and is interested in relationships in which her feelings will be embodied: first of all, this is a family, husband and children.

Men have instrumental values ​​and the desire to achieve an objective result, women have expressive values, the desire for emotional harmony.

Women are more prone to manipulation in relationships than men (see →) and at the same time they are usually convinced that they are not manipulating (see →).

We all come from childhood. From childhood: girls play with dolls, boys carry and make cars.

Boys and girls even before birth “know” who will play cars and who will play with dolls. Do not believe me, try to give a choice to a two-year-old boy, in ninety cases out of a hundred he will choose cars.

Boys can play with blocks or cars — for hours. And at this time the girls — for hours! — play out relationships, play family, play different roles in relationships, play out resentment and forgiveness …

Here the children drew on the theme of «space». Before us is one of the drawings. Here is a rocket: all nozzles and nozzles are carefully drawn, next to it is an astronaut. He stands with his back, but there are many different sensors on his back. Without a doubt, this is a drawing of a boy. And here is another drawing: the rocket is drawn schematically, next to it is the astronaut — with his face, and on the face and eyes with cilia, and cheeks, and lips — everything is carefully drawn. This, of course, was drawn by a girl. In general, boys often draw equipment (tanks, cars, planes…), their drawings are filled with action, movement, everything moves around, runs, makes noise. And girls draw people (most often princesses), including themselves.

Let’s compare the real drawings of the children of the preparatory group of the kindergarten: a boy and a girl. The topic is the same “after the snowfall”. All the boys in the group, except for one, drew harvesting equipment, and the girls drew themselves jumping over snowdrifts. In the center of the girl’s drawing — usually she herself …

אויב איר פרעגן קינדער צו ציען אַ וועג צו קינדער - גאָרטן, די יינגלעך אָפט ציען אַריבערפירן אָדער אַ דיאַגראַמע, און גערלז ציען זיך מיט זייער מוטער מיט די האַנט. און אַפֿילו אויב אַ מיידל ציען אַ ויטאָבוס, דעמאָלט זי זיך קוקט אויס פון די פֿענצטער: מיט סיליאַ, טשיקס און באָווס.

And how do boys and girls respond in the classroom in kindergarten or school? The boy looks at the desk, to the side or in front of him, and, if he knows the answer, answers confidently, and the girl looks in the face of the tutor or teacher and, answering, looks in their eyes for confirmation of the correctness of her answer, and only after the nod of the adult continues more confidently . And in matters of children, the same line can be traced. Boys are more likely to ask adults questions in order to get some specific information (What is our next lesson?), and girls to establish contact with an adult (Will you still come to us?). That is, boys (and men) are more focused on information, and girls (and women) are more oriented towards relationships between people. See →

Growing up, boys turn into men, girls into women, but these psychological characteristics remain. Women use every opportunity to turn the conversation about business into a conversation about feelings and relationships. Men, on the contrary, evaluate this as a distraction and try to translate conversations about feelings and relationships into some kind of business construct: “What are we talking about?” At least at work, a man needs to work, not about feelings. See →