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To what extent is this common idea about male and female fantasies true? Everything is exactly the opposite — sexologists believe and debunk another stereotype about sexuality.
«Rape is mostly a male fantasy»
Alain Eril, פּסיכאָאַנאַליסט, סעקסאָלאָגיסט:
Everything is exactly the opposite! After all, it is mainly men who believe that a woman dreams of being raped, because this removes the guilt from them for their own similar fantasies.
It is enough to look at how, in the case of a real rape, a woman submits an application to law enforcement agencies. There they begin to ask her questions: “How were you dressed? Are you sure you didn’t provoke the attack?»
As can be seen from these questions, unconsciously a man often thinks that a woman dreams of being raped. Rape is mostly a male fantasy, and I regularly find confirmation of this in my practice.
But for women, one of the most common fantasies is a threesome, in which she and two men participate.
This imagined excess is due to the fact that a significant number of women, no matter how great their pleasure, feel that their potential has not yet been exhausted. Imagining themselves with two men, they fantasize about trying to reach an even more intense orgasm.
“The desire to bring these fantasies to life most often leads to nightmarish consequences”
Mireille Bonierbal, סייקאַטריסט, סעקסאָלאָגיסט:
This is not true for women. In a large sociological study conducted by the French psychiatrist and sexologist Robert Porto, rape fantasies among women were in tenth place.
The most common were fantasies in which the woman relived some particularly disturbing sexual scene with her former partner.
However, in today’s society, which is increasingly confusing fiction and reality, I would first like to remind you that such fantasies are valuable only as a way to develop erotic imagination. The desire to bring them to life most often leads to nightmarish consequences.
As for men, they really often dream of love in a threesome, but … with the participation of another man
In their fantasies, they offer him their woman, which speaks at the same time of the lust for power and repressed homosexuality.
Some men bring these fantasies to their wives to the point that they agree to realize them in reality. Such an experience has destroyed many couples: it is not so easy to watch your woman enjoy intimacy with another.